Starting to Separate
Before you begin
In some unhealthy relationships, one person has more power than the other. This can affect how well you and your partner communicate and cooperate as you separate, and it can show up as abusive behaviours. Your and your family’s safety may be at risk.
If your partner makes you feel anxious or threatened, you should get help. If you are in immediate danger, dial 999 for the police. Women can call the freephone National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 at any time. Man can call the Men’s Advice Line on 0808 801 0327 which helps men suffering domestic abuse.
We’ve decided to end our relationship. What’s next? There’s a lot to think about and understand. This tool will help you think about what’s going to be required of you in your separation or divorce and what to do next.
You’ll answer some questions about your relationship, family life, and living arrangements. You’ll identify the issues you and your ex-partner will need to focus on. You’ll learn about the law, what legal processes you need to follow and find out where to get high quality information to support your unique situation. You’ll also assess how you and your ex-partner can work together to resolve your family matters and make arrangements for the future. You may be able to discuss and decide issues by yourselves, and you may need some help to make good arrangements for your lives apart.
You’ll get a personalised summary that you can download or print out. It’s completely anonymous, free and should only take you around 15 minutes to complete.
87.1% of users of the Starting to Separate tool were satisfied or very satisfied with the information and support they received
(based on usage up to 9th September 2020)
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Everyone has arguments from time to time. When you are separating these can become more frequent. But sometimes one partner is more dominant in the relationship than the other. This can create unhealthy relationships and lead to behaviours that are abusive potentially putting you and your children at increased risk of harm.
This tool helps you to think about your relationship and consider your safety risks. It gives you an action plan to help you all stay safe during separation.
Whether you are you are just going through separation or have been separated for a while, this tool can help you get some clarity and help you think about what to do next.
You’ll answer some questions about your relationship and family life. You’ll learn about separation, the law, and you'll find support and guidance to help make this difficult time easier for you and your family.